Dear Doctor，

　　From the good day on OCT.1st till now, i has been a wife for 3 months more.Much to my sadness, i never enjoy the happyness from the sex living. Speak frankly, we never manage to make really love.

　　i love my husband very much. i should bear part of responsibility. owing to my shyness, before marriage, i unwilling to let him enter my secret area.however, i couldn't resist of his tend touch outside my underdress. This behaviour make him easy to give out the sperm without entering. Till now a bad habit has developed, he can't enter.

　　Due to several unsuccessful proceeding, he maybe had burden in his mind. I know it unreasonable to blame him. but the problem should be settled without any delay, i think, the later, the worse.

　　To help him, i overcame my shyness to encourage him and blame myself for not satisfying his natural need before wedding ceremony.

　　sometimes, i also worried about myself, do i have some problem with my secret area, why it's so hard for him to enter? he ever said his little brother is too large to set in. Is this also a factor to the failure. how can i do before see a doctor? i will be very grateful if you could help me. as a man, he of course unwilling to see a doctor for such problem.

　　张大夫答：首先，夫妻双方应该共同学习一些必要的生理知识，了解早泄的病因(这方面主页有介绍)，有器质性疾病的及时治疗(例如前列腺精囊炎症、包茎等)，控制频繁手淫。

　　其次，把事情说开，不要讽刺挖苦，应该鼓励对方，在心里上缓解他的压力(这一点很重要)。

　　第三，性交前爱抚时不要过多刺激生殖器部位，使用避孕套性交有时比较有效，或试试改变性交体位。

　　第四，在性生活中积极配合，帮助他进行对抗早泄的练习(挤压龟头的方法，主页有介绍)。